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Week 3

…of January is done! Can you actually believe it? My child is settling in well at school and in a few short weeks the term will be over! I am seriously struggling with dealing with the passage of time here…

Anyway. In a bit if an update, work continues to be busy. I was not on call last night, but I forgot to switch my phone off, and 2:30 am it rang – groan! Anyway, I have had some terrible sleep this week, I am seriously struggling with a cough; and while I felt a lot better yesterday, when I climbed intoned, it started again – I think I had a bit of a reaction to the chemically smell of our brand new mattress  (yes, we finally treated ourselves to one) and I had coughed and coughed and coughed until I almost threw up, and had struggled to sleep, so call at that hour was very unwelcome!

Like I said, Thandi is having a great time at school. She is a bit sad her buddies aren’t in her class, and she says break time is way too short to play with her friends, “Mom, break is so short, I just had time to eat my sandwich and then I had to go in again!” Charlie and  I are back on the PTA this year – I like to be involved, and it’s looking like it’ll be a good year.

My running update is interesting – so I got hold of a friend who is a sports physician in CT and he has said that some of the medication I am on could definitely have an impact on performance. Mid last year I was diagnosed with hypertension and started on medication, to my absolute horror! I am just so relieved that I haven’t imagined things, that I may not just be fat and unfit… Time will tell what we can do about it though. I have to do some tests and get the answers to him, but I want my cough to be better first.

The weekend awaits! Birthday parties and braais, runs and relaxation are on the cards. Sunday we head off to the neighbouring city to go and watch Johnny Clegg in his final tour – I cannot wait! It’s going to be awesome.

Making it

…showee! It’s been a busy week.

The first day of ‘big’ school went well, Thandi seems to be settling down really well. We had our Grade One parents meeting last night – I know my child is going to be rather bored, so I am going to have to work hard to keep her humble and stimulated. Homework has been a piece of cake thus far, long may it last. We are busy working on her extramural timetable – it’s going to be a busy year for the young lady. We are still awaiting the swimming assessment at school to see if she will be in the school squad or not, and then we can finalise the programme. Ballet, tap dancing, modern dancing, piano, swimming and ball skills (the sports development programme at the school); and we are considering french lessons. sounds atrocious, doesn’t it? But she loves it all, and is coping with it all; the moment she doesn’t, the plan will change.

Work has been hectic – the medical aids are full and people have funds, so everyone is coming out of the woodwork – routine checks and then problems that patients have lived with until their funds kicked in again. I do feel like the rooms are bursting at the seams. It’s not a bad thing, I am still in financial recovery mode after my deli devoured my all my savings, so busy is good. (I have to keep chanting that mantra in my head – it gets tough to stay positive and motivated though. I am trying so hard to engage each patient I see and make sure they leave happy and satisfied with the solutions I seek out for them.)

At home we have had a hiccup, our housekeeper did not return after New Year – she left before Christmas, returned for 1 day between the holiday weekends and then not again. We did have a squizz in her room after our dogs went crazy at the door, to find a pigsty! Cupboards and drawers overflowing, food on plates in the fridge growing mould, roaches everywhere! Grim – and now a clear understanding why my hose was always untidy! Anyway, she heard we had looked, took offence, sent us some angry sms’s and has failed to appear for a disciplinary hearing… So currently Charlie and I are becoming domestic gods – washing, vacuuming, ironing, cleaning. I realise now how lazy we had become, and keeping things under control is not too hard. However, with the start of school meetings and functions, we are realising we need that person to live in with us again…

So, here’s to the weekend after a week of crazy busyness. Enjoy yours too!

School days

…and she’s off!

Day 1 seems to have gone very well. She is positively effervescent with tales of her day. We are better by regaled with all the news – the day, the new girls and the homework! I am so excited for her.

Thandi, my beautiful girl, may all your first days be as great as this one, my girl. Fly high, be brave and know you can do anything; and that your mama loves you!


For tomorrow she will be a first grader! Be quiet, my mama angst.


…and counting. My Thandigirl is so super excited about heading to school next week, so we are counting down the sleeps. I love her enthusiasm! so, the uniforms bought and marked, shoes and tackies ready to wear, the stationary has arrived and been labelled. Bags have been embroidered, everything is getting ready. Now we just have to figure out how to keep her busy for the next 8 sleeps! There are a couple of play dates planned, a day or 2 at Jonginenge (a day programme at the local beach where the kids surf, boogie board, sand board, rock climb, canoe etc – they come home windswept, smelling of the sun and exhausted – win! And she has really learnt to surf!) and before she knows it this next phase of her school career begins.

the family that plays together

…gets hot and sweaty together!

Yay for us, this weekend I coaxed my little family out the front door. Charlie and I ran 10km on Saturday (his furtherest voluntary run ever) and 8,5km on Sunday. Thandi accompanied us on her bike, and I was super impressed that she managed to keep up. We managed to teach her quite a lot about gearing up and down, so hoping she starts to get that spontaneously now. She was a little legend; and Charlie was a big legend. Battling cramps calves on Sunday, he pushed through, despite me keeping routes and distances a secret from him. And didn’t moan excessively last night; although did wince every time he had to stand and walk anywhere.

(and therein the joy of becoming by married to a doctor, anti inflammatories and some arnica will sort him out easy easy!)


… my year of tremendous highs and horrendous lows. Above all, a year that taught me endurance.

My lows – in a word I could describe this as my year of loss. In January our divine nanny, Thandi’s second mother Noxy left us for a new opportunity, the chance to live full time with both her children, a chance that we couldn’t begrudge her. In February my dear mom died. I miss her everyday with an aching heart. In July our German friends left and what a blow that was to everyone, loosing such dear friends to another continent. Thankfully social media has made the world very small. At the end of August we closed the doors on our little dream project, my little deli, Salut. Hard to close up, but a completely cold financial decision and it has now revealed the true extent of its destruction of almost all my savings.

The highs – 2 marathons, one ultra marathon and a stage trail have been some good runnings highs for me. I’m very proud of what I have achieved running given the rest of my life. Winning the Regional BWA businesswomen achiever award in August was a lovely indictment of my work achievements. Someone has noticed, someone thought I was the most successful professional woman in my city. Good one!Our holiday to Scotland was just fabulous – sights, sounds, food, family, divine.

And through it all, the highs and lows I’ve been blessed with incredible friends and the most special family. Without Thandi and Charlie, this girl wouldn’t have survived this tumultuous year. Thank you both for standing by my side through the proverbial thick and thin; and thanks for agreeing to join me on the adventures that 2018 will no doubt bring.

To my friends in the computer, thanks for being there with a comment or a like; thanks for blogging and letting me have a glimpse of your lives; stay awesome, keep blogging.