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Sunday’s mothering

…so, I guess I should share some of my thoughts and experiences around that day of mothers. Hmmm…

God, I miss her so much. A physical ache in my heart. I still had so much to learn from her; and prepping for Thandi’s party, I have a small weep every night, because I know how much she would have loved to be involved, how she would have helped me, how much her granddaughter would have loved the interaction. I’ll always remember the first fondant icing cake I made myself, my Dawny day at my kitchen counter helping me every step of the way, rubbing that cake until it was smooth and gleaming. Oh Mommy, I wish this was different.

My day was lovely. Thandi has made me a beautiful tea tray towel, Charlie got me all misty eyed with a sentimental card; and then laughing hysterically with a crazy gift… I present to you…

A can of doom! You see, the long running joke is that Charlie, and now Thandi are trying to drive me mad, using flies, which only I can hear, notice and see; so they’re allowing me to fight back against the craziness! Champs!

I love my precious family, and miss my Dawny always.


…are my call night, but they are also our regular date with another family, the SuperK’s (I nearly called them the SpecialK’s, but realised that could really be misconstrued!) Last night we met at their house for a movie night – they have recently renovated their TV lounge – nice couches and recliners and an enormous TV (I didn’t even have to squint!). What a nice little hump in the week – we ate a curry that Charlie had cooked and watched an ozzie movie, called Red Dog – I really can recommend it – the kids laughed and cried (as they would in an animal movie). Thandi and Alexa (the eldest K kid) loved it, Chelsea, the littlest K was very sad, worrying about the boy and the dog (and no, I’m not going to give more away about the plot), but it was really sweet. It’s nice not to watch another animated flick for a change, not that I don’t love those too!

Back to reality

… it’s been 2 days and reality bites! Yowzer, it’s been a really busy couple of days. So here, finally is my long weekend report back.

So our trip to the Mother City started early on Thursday morning. We hit the road, got going and just outside Port Elizabeth everything ground to a halt! There was a service delivery protest going on – in the day that there was a vote of no confidence scheduled in the DA mayor of Nelson Mandela Bay – coincidence? I think not! Anyway, the N2 was closed, the alternative road was closed, by protesters burning trees, types and trash across the roads. We sat on the side of the road for 2 hours – star jumps, push ups, planks, stories… finally we got going again, but things are still very volatile – teargas and rubber bullets were flying. As a child raised in the 80’s; I was ready – Thandi was made to lie down on the back seat, blanket over her, ready to cover her face if necessary. I was ready to duck down, Charlie was ready for some evasive action. Flip. I was anxious for a bit there. Anyway, the danger evaded, we hit that road with a 3 hour delay at the end, turning our trip into an extremely long one. But we made it, checked into our lovely AirB&B in Newlands and we were ready.

Friday was all about registration, and yes, all the drama you saw on social media was true. Super congested, super slow with agonizingly slow queues. It meant that the expo suffered, because I think we were all just too grumpy to shop properly. Saying that – I did buy 2 new pairs of shoes – road and trail; so I am ready for the next 6 months of running!

Saturday was the day, I ran the half marathon this year – another super congested day. Yoh! There are a lot of runners doing it! When at 10+km you are still forced to walk as you go around corners etc because the crowd dictates it. Hmmm. I ran a very slow time (2:37) but I couldn’t have gone much faster. I was pleased to meet a friend on Southern Cross Drive, and was pleased to have company for the rest of the run. My nieces ran their first half marathon – I think the big may have bitten fir them. My brother was beaming! He was so super chuffed to be there with his daughters! That was pretty special.

Saturday night we celebrated with friends at the Pot Luck Club – divine! As always!

Sunday we spent the day at the Cape Point Vineyards for a picnic, it was really nice, albeit rather disorganized! Food was good, setting incredible and weather perfect.

Monday was a jumbly day, had breakfast at the Olympia cafe with my brother; visited the scratch patch, had lunch with friends, walked in Newlands forest with other friends, and then a quick burger dinner before an early night prior to our trip home. Busy, but good.

The trip home was a whole lot easier, but flip, it’s far; I’m glad to be home and able to shower!


own birthday celebrations better be good, Mom! Hope those sisters of yours have planned a fabulous party, and that there is an awesome cake!

Happy Birthday Mom, we miss you so much and remember all our celebrations together.

Every 27th of February I’ll raise a toast to you, my beautiful mom. I wish more than anything that you could be with us, but even more than that, I’m relieved that you are comfortable, free and not struggling anymore. Love you forever…


… on my goals.

Now after yesterday’s rather bleak post, I realised I need to short my focus from my own belly button (enough naval gazing, thank you) to my horizon. Because it is gig and wide and I can choose any number of directions. So, let me recap on my goals for now.

  • Workwise I have to focus on my bank balance – as much as I do what I love, I also have to pay the bills, and last year with the deli drama, I lost most of my savings. I want to get back to the place where I had a healthy amount of savings that I felt like I did not need to be overly concerned if disaster struck and I say needed cash in heartbeat. Currently I am not in that position, but this year I will consolidate and work hard to get back there. I am committed to this as a priority.
  • Running – so my goal of being super fit for this adventure on the wild coast is up the creek, but I will enjoy it, and then get some serious training in – on my horizon are the following events – the 2 Oceans half marathon, the Wild Women on the run event and the Cape Town Marathon. I have some goals, but my priority is to enjoy these events. I want to run with a smile and not a grimace!
  • Bodywise – I always joke that my new years resolution in the Year of the Body 73; and every year not much seems to change. About 4 years ago I lost 16kg, I’ve gained about half of that back – I need to get back down again. I have developed a number of chronic health conditions (thanks for those genes, family!) and I know that my weight is not assisting me. ( I will concede my self discipline here is low, but I am getting ready for the changes).
  • Mentally I am tired of being tired; I am over the day to day exhaustions and I will focus on those little things that give me joy. My painting class being my current thing. I am loving the time I spend exploring my creative side… I am also trying hard to limit myself in terms of how many things I commit to – if they do not advance me personally or professionally, I am going to try to say no! (not easy for me, at all!) I also am prioritising family time – my girl is very aware that I am busy and therefore tired when I get home. I know her awesome dad does so much for her, I want to remember good times with me, and not just boring tired mommy. My Charlie also needs my attention – ahem…

So focussing on goals will hopefully allow for some successful planning. Onwards and upwards… (I will report bak here periodically, it may be weekly, maybe monthly. My running log is in my pages, as is my weight loss (ok, I’m a bit shy to update there currently…) follow me there to hold me accountable.

Making it

…showee! It’s been a busy week.

The first day of ‘big’ school went well, Thandi seems to be settling down really well. We had our Grade One parents meeting last night – I know my child is going to be rather bored, so I am going to have to work hard to keep her humble and stimulated. Homework has been a piece of cake thus far, long may it last. We are busy working on her extramural timetable – it’s going to be a busy year for the young lady. We are still awaiting the swimming assessment at school to see if she will be in the school squad or not, and then we can finalise the programme. Ballet, tap dancing, modern dancing, piano, swimming and ball skills (the sports development programme at the school); and we are considering french lessons. sounds atrocious, doesn’t it? But she loves it all, and is coping with it all; the moment she doesn’t, the plan will change.

Work has been hectic – the medical aids are full and people have funds, so everyone is coming out of the woodwork – routine checks and then problems that patients have lived with until their funds kicked in again. I do feel like the rooms are bursting at the seams. It’s not a bad thing, I am still in financial recovery mode after my deli devoured my all my savings, so busy is good. (I have to keep chanting that mantra in my head – it gets tough to stay positive and motivated though. I am trying so hard to engage each patient I see and make sure they leave happy and satisfied with the solutions I seek out for them.)

At home we have had a hiccup, our housekeeper did not return after New Year – she left before Christmas, returned for 1 day between the holiday weekends and then not again. We did have a squizz in her room after our dogs went crazy at the door, to find a pigsty! Cupboards and drawers overflowing, food on plates in the fridge growing mould, roaches everywhere! Grim – and now a clear understanding why my hose was always untidy! Anyway, she heard we had looked, took offence, sent us some angry sms’s and has failed to appear for a disciplinary hearing… So currently Charlie and I are becoming domestic gods – washing, vacuuming, ironing, cleaning. I realise now how lazy we had become, and keeping things under control is not too hard. However, with the start of school meetings and functions, we are realising we need that person to live in with us again…

So, here’s to the weekend after a week of crazy busyness. Enjoy yours too!


…so this season has probable been one of the quieter ones in terms of visitors

My brothers popped in briefly pre Christmas, no sisters-in-law, and just 2 nieces. It was amazing to see them again, I can’t believe at how much closer I feel to them since Dawny died. I’m not sure if that is because I have taken her role on a bit or if its because we really have just bonded better. It is really nice to know that we all love each other and lots of the rubbish that went on in the past is consigned to exactly that, the past.

Charles’s brother and all his clan including his in-laws are here currently. They aren’t staying with us, but we have seen some of them over the last few days. Charles and T spending more time with them than I have, because of my calls and all those work demands on me.

The Cape Town crew of friends haven’t made it down this year, I’m very sad to be missing my friends. Our international friends will hopefully be here next year, and that will be awesome!

So for the first time in ages, we have had a very quiet house over this season. Tonight we are hosting Charlie’s family, so there will be some chaos, but I think I can manage with one night.